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My Favourite Looks…

January 18, 2016
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My favourite looks from way back when…

Style is such a personal thing. Even though I studied fashion and style for many years that hasn’t changed the fact that what I feel good in is  more important to me than how it looks to everyone else. Here are some of my favourite looks over the years…

Scan_20150505 (13)1. Pastel Yellow Smocked Summer Dress worn with a white sun hat. I LOVED this look… it’s so fresh and cute. This is my best shade of yellow for my cool skin-tone and I have some tops in the same colour now. Pretty, isn’t it?

 

 

 

 

 

Scan_20150505 (22)2. This was around the time Flashdance, the original movie was on – it was the 80’s and perms were in!! So, I got my first perm and I LOVED it. The striped shirt over a t-shirt was cool back then too. And a pale blue denim skirt – my look was complete!

 

 

 

Scan_20150505 (10)3. I went to America for a few months and got this professional picture taken – with a pale pink round neck sweater, pale blue eyeshadow and lipgloss. Very girly!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Scan_20150505 (12)4. This gorgeous “Debs” dress was made by my Mom – she used to make a lot of my clothes when I was much younger too. The velvet bodice felt so luxurious!!  I loved Winona Ryder at the time which is why I have my hair very short. The only down-side  was my nerves about ever kissing anyone with my braces!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Scan_20150505 (15)5. In the 90’s I went though my boho phase – long dresses with my Doc Martin boots and lots of texture like this button up woolen vest. My bead were wooden. It’s the all natural look. This photo was taken on the Staten Island Ferry in New York!

 

 

 

Scan_20150505 (19)6. Later in the 90’s I had a more sporty look! This is a cute zip-up top worn over jeans… and look who I’m having my photo taken with… it’s the Queen of England!!

 

 

 

 

Scan_20150505 (11)P.S. Here is my school uniform – the royal blue jumper that I sometimes wore during my summer holidays is under my blazer. I was so excited and felt so smart in all new clothes and the beret too!

 

 

 

 

 

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“You can’t EAT beauty!”

April 9, 2014
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For many years I worked as an image consultant, helping people see what colours and styles suited them. As rewarding as that was, I finally got fed up.

Was helping people look good really going to make them happier or more fulfilled? Was a “Band-aid” of great colours in your wardrobe or make-up going to hide deeper issues of ill-health or lack of self-confidence?

Could someone improve their self-confidence with some help from an image consultant?? Do those TV shows like What not to wear or 10 years younger really help their “victims”?

“I think no matter what you look like the key first of all is to be happy with yourself. Then you know if you want to try to improve things that you don’t like about yourself, then do it after you appreciate yourself.” ADELE

How we perceive ourselves does have an impact on our self-identity. And most of us go through a phase of looking to others to judge ourselves.

So, how does it go… well, as young children most of us don’t notice or care what anyone else thinks. But our teenage years become a minefield of self-doubt and comparative thinking.

My story

I was a complete dreamer in my teens. I read lots of mystery, romance and science fiction and I buried my head in books as a way to cope with my world.

When Madonna released “Like a virgin” I was just 10 years old and I remember seeing her on Top of the Pops.

Five years later I bought a raunchy super-short Madonna-esque velvet and lace dress that probably looked like a Halloween costume and attempted to wear it to the teenage disco. Thankfully, my father saved my reputation and simultaneously dinted my self-confidence by insisting I changed my outfit.

What was it all about??? My identity… I was figuring out who I was by changing the way I dressed but I see now how influenced I was by the media.

My absolute favourite story comes from the model/ actor and director Lupita Nyong’o who was raised in Kenya. She describes never seeing beautiful black women on TV and how she promises God she would never lose her school sweater again if he would just lighten her skin. She wished to be beautiful but didn’t think anyone who looked like her could be.

Her mother’s advice was “you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you”. Meaning you can’t rely on how you look… to sustain you.

Lupita says “what actually sustains us, what is fundamentally beautiful, is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty inflames the heart and enchants the soul.”

Yes, it is nice to know what colours suit your skin or what the perfect shade of lipstick for you is but that is just the surface… when we achieve something or do what we love in life or help someone else that is where our true deep beauty and individuality can be found.

Lupita recently won an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for 12 Years a Slave. You might enjoy hearing her story below:

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